I am trying to find a quote from Sex and the City. You know, the part where Carrie and Samantha were talking and Samantha confessed that she can’t decide if she should burp or fuck Jared. Yup, season six when Carrie found her much older Russian luuuurver.

No such luck. I can’t find the quote per se…

So anyway, I suppose I can perfectly identify with that sort of dilemma… when faced between choosing someone who is young or older. A young man who can make a female feel her age (possibly?) – young, innocent and girlly, or someone who can guide her, understand her and make her feel like a woman?

It reminds me of what constantly runs through my head. Do I want to feel young and innocent again? Who wouldn’t want to live in a fairytale where everything is dream-like, innocent and each laughter rings merrily with unfiltered joy? (Even though it seems suspiciously like puppy love…) I would. Yet again, I know I’ve left my childhood behind. I’m no longer a teenager just hovering on the brink of adulthood… I’m a woman now. I’ve aged rapidly since I turned 21. I know the difference, it shows on my face.

Somehow older men sounds good. Wiser, more experienced in worldly affairs, perhaps even more career minded and stable. But are they?

From prior experiences, it seems age really is but a number. A number that doesn’t denote their state of mentality… then again perhaps it stems from their family background and childhood. Far too many males I know have been dependent on their parent(s) for the longest time and till now, they are either tied to Mummy’s apron strings or held in denial refusing to take responsibility for their own lives.

In fact I think males whose age ranges from 22-28 are the most terrifying for girlfriends. It’s during this range that they are reckless, self-centred and has no understanding of the long term effects whatsoever. All they know is “me me me” or “fun! drink! sex!”. For females whose significant other is within this range who is career minded and stable. She is surely blessed.

No such luck for me unfortunately.

But that’s besides the point really. In my personal opinion, the biggest gripe I can have in any relationship is the way a guy handles his relationships.

Ummm… how should I put it?

One thing about younger men I noticed, they like to lump both girlfriends and friends together. This observation was affirmed by a certain someone a long time back when I was whining to him. Well, he was guilty as charged too, when he was younger. However he shared that he learnt to separate the two when he got older… ah! At least some of them learn.

A long-lost friend I met up with last month shared how her much older ex-boyfriend would always ask her out, only for them to end up with his friends! I’m not surprised he became an “ex”. Though I can’t understand how she could’ve tolerate it for more than a month.

So yes, for some strange reason I can’t fathom, BOYS like to hang out in groups… friends and girlfriend together. Somehow that to them is considered “spending quality time” together. Huh?! I thought “group think” was a teenage phase?

For guys who has reached 20 and beyond, I don’t get it, I don’t understand it and I totally abhor it. It’s a major no no in my books. It simply shows immense immaturity. I don’t mind spending time as a group occassionally but not every time!

Ernest got a earful from me in the earlier months when the times he decided to catch a movie was because his friends were too… Somehow everything gets restrictive in a group, everyone must agree to do the same thing… even those who are not so agreeable in the first place must go along with the decisions.

Maybe I’m just plain weird and anal. And yes, anti-social. But really, is it that hard or impossible to have time alone as a couple together without having to accommodate to what others want to do?

Is quality time too much to ask for?

(And no, seeing each other at home after work doesn’t constitute to having spent quality time…)